I've started to write this blog about 10 times now, but continually back out. I'm not entirely for sure why. Maybe I'm not enjoying the beats its taking, or it feels pretentious or something. Well, today...I'm writing it.
I keep reading "30 is the new 25" or "40 is the new 30" Thank Christ, because I'm taking my sweet ass time in age.
I've taken a while longer to grow up than most people I know. When I say "grow up", I'm not talking mature. I've felt since a young age that I was fairly mature. I mean, I still make dick and fart jokes. But taking care of business...that sort of thing. The growing up I'm talking about is more along the lines of getting married, having kids, buying a house. But do those things even really constitute being a grown up? I see television shows where people are getting married, and having kids while in High School. They seem to be about as mature as middle school child.
And its not like I'm against marriage or having kids...or buying a house even. I'm getting married in October. Its just that...I didn't see the point of rushing in, like 99% of my fellow graduating class did. I feel like I've been able to experience so much more, that if I had gotten married, or saddled with children at an early age. Would have I been able to go to Mardi Gras for the first time? What about bar hopping in downtown Nashville? Going out of town on a whim? Meeting people that I consider life long friends?
Now, I'm not saying that there's anything wrong with getting married, or having children right out of High School. A lot of people seem to be perfectly happy in those decisions. But I also see quite a few folks who are miserable, or have since divorced.
All this makes me believe, that despite what my mother has told me, that maybe...just maybe...I was on the right track. She used to tell me "if you are single now, then all your friends (from HS) who are getting married and having kids will be more free when its time to retire to do fun things while, you'll be behind them."
Which made no sense. Why would I want to wait to retirement to enjoy my youth?
Does getting married make me feel like I won't be able to still do all the awesome things I did when I was single? Absolutely not. I'll have someone to do those things with. I'm absolutely happy that I waited to become a grown up.